hatas gonna hate

Well recently a crazy situation happened to me on Facebook. The ohhhh so dreaded Facebook, I definitely would not have one if it wasn't for the fact that I have to keep up with my Miss Teen North Carolina International 2012 page. Facebook is trash, sorry to say it to all you "obsessed, look every second, hope I have a notification" Facebook people out there.....I'm just not a fan, sorry.

So I'll kind of explain the story, it's no biggie. A guy messaged me asking, ya know, the ole "how you doing, I haven't talked to you in forever"
Then, I'm on the other side of the computer saying to myself... "ummmm who is this" (happens to me all the time, I'm AWFUL with names and faces and remembering frankly anything..)
Well and then my boyfriend gets on and types back "Because I have a bf, bye"
So, this guy didn't take it very well, actually he got pretty mad. Not sure why? Whatever I don't really care because first it wasn't me and secondly.. I didn't even know him.
Well long story short he ended up messaging me twice. The second message was quite longer than the first and I actually didn't even get to the second message with reading because it was a bunch of bologna and just plum rude when I didn't even know the guy. Needless to say, he actually said a lot of hurtful things just in the one message that I read, that's when I did my "you don't sink my boat" deal (cough cough, read the blog below) and just deleted them before I read any further and he is definitely not my "face book friend" anymore either. BLOCKED!

.... here's another story

At KFC one day I was waiting in line, and a lady was ordering her meal. She was about my height and just slightly larger than me. She said to the cashier I would like a bucket of chicken and one side, (I don't frankly remember the side, its okay though). The cashier then said, "is that for here or to go ma'am?" and she said, "for here"...
The KFC worker then gave her a very rude and questionable look and then said, "are you serious, you're going to eat all of that here?"
(This is my favorite part)
The lady put her hands on her hips, and shook her head while she said
"YOU DONT KNOW MY LIFE"
Wow, I was so ecstatic. I gave that woman a high five and told her "good for you" and she got her food and sat down to enjoy it.
I couldn't believe how rude the KFC worker was to her, and it's true he didn't know her life or had any right to judge her for just eating some good ole KFC.


Both of these things happened within the past week and it really got me to thinking how absolutely plum rude and judgmental people are on this earth. It amazes me. I've grown to realize that it is SO much better to have just a few real friends, than having a ton of fake ones. After that guy messaged me I was actually upset, I'm not sure why because I shouldn't have at all. I realized though no matter what, for everyone "be careful with your words. Once they are said, they can only be forgiven, not forgotten". I guess that is kind of what happened with me, I kept thinking to myself "what right does he have to judge me and say rude things to me when frankly I don't even remember the guy". It took my wonderful boyfriend and some words of encouragement and laughter to help me get over it.


So I came up with a conclusion to both these situations and just said to myself "hatas gonna hate" It is very true too. People only say or do mean things to someone because they are jealous.. It eats at people to see someone more successful than them. They will do anything to put people down, just to do it. Stupid, right? I did some research and looked up some verses for when you or someone you know may receive some "hate".. here's what I came up with

No matter what hardships the world may throw at you, you have in Jesus everything you need to preserve. Despair is a deep pit and sometimes you totter around its edges, almost falling in. I've definitely been to those edges. To keep from falling though I've realized you have to change your focus from your circumstances to Jesus. As a human we have a natural tendency to keep thinking about a difficult situation- trying to figure it out kinda. Though you may be hard pressed on every side, you shouldn't ever be crushed by your difficulties facing you and fall inn. Because guess what? we are not alone in our battles. Jesus will never ever abandon us. "I am the shepherd and guardian of your soul- the part that is indestructible". Also although he may bring grief, he will show compassion. No matter what trials you are enduring, you can count on his love and his compassion- neither of which will NEVER fail..
We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair' persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed 2 Corinthians 4:8
A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones Proverbs 17:22 AMP (aka, KFC guy and message guy.. their bones are dry ha ha)
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great in his unfailing love Lamentations 3:32
Our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far out weights them all 2 Corinthians 4:17
Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge. Selah. Psalm 62:8

I pray and hope that for whoever is reading this you never let someone downgrade or lower you. Always surround yourself with people who will uplift you and make you happy. Never let someone be rude or judgmental to you, no one has a right to do that buttttt neither do you. You're not in someone else's shoes and their not in yours and it will always be like that, no matter what. I have a challenge for whoever is reading this, next time you come up to a situation or someone hatin' on you just simply say

YOU DON'T KNOW MY LIFE

and ignore it
:)

Redeeming Love

So I literally just finished a book and said to myself "I have to blog about this". It is called Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers.

Its based in California's gold country, in 1850. Angel absolutely expected nothing from men, she was sold into prostitution as a child and survived by that hate. She eventually meets a man named Michael Hosea. Michael is a man who seeks his Father's heart in everything and obeys God's calling to marry Angel. Despite all her expectations of men, her frozen heart begins to thaw. She gets overwhelming feelings of unworthiness and fear, thinking Michael deserves someone much more suited for a man like him. So Angel runs. It's all about her how her final healing must come from the One who loves her even more than Michael does..

I would hate to spoil the whole thing, so all I can really say is if you're a woman and you're reading my blog right now... I expect you to go to Barnes & Noble TOMORROW and get this book.

If you have read it here is some things that I took from it:
It really opened my eyes a kind of love that any woman or good man deserves. Firstly though, you have to love the lord and be right with him. That's the main point of the story. Angel began to truly love Michael, she worshiped the ground he walked. Michael could never understand why she had left him, but God spoke to him and told him that she had worshiped Michael, not him and she needed to figure that out. Michael remained pure, and faithful for three years waiting for Angel to some day come back to him. When she did, he was there with open arms welcoming her back into his life. Angel had given her life to the Lord, and was now able to put her past behind and look forward to the future. Michael was a wonderful man. He resembled God in so many ways. He always forgave Angel, he was always patient and loved her with an endless love until "death do them part". That's exactly what I want.
We loved because he loved us first. 1 John 4:9

Another amazing part of the book was about a girl named Susanna. She simply used a shoe box and cut a hole in the top. She would then write down her prayers and put them in the box, signifying that she was giving her problem to the Lord and letting him handle and answer her prayers when the right time was. It made me want to do the same thing. She would date each prayer and when it was answered date it again, and see how God's timing had planned out. I thought it would be such a great way to give all your burdens, worries, thanks, and prayers to God. I loved the idea, so I'm going to start one here soon.
You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God! Psalm 139: 15-17
God has timing for everything, you have to let him handle the things that are suppose to happen. Its not on you're time. Trust in him and he will lead you the right way, and answer you prayers when the time is right in his books. Always TRUST.

Shield a Badge Fundraiser

Shield a Badge with Prayer and The Carolina Baptist Association are hosting a fundraiser to benefit three local law enforcement (Bobbie Trotter, Theresa Rider and our un-named person) who are struggling with life altering illnesses. 100% of... our proceeds will be divided between these three individuals.

 

 

2012 Haywood March of Dimes

I was asked to participate and appear at the 2012 Haywood March for Dimes event. Haywood county is where I grew up, and have lived my whole life. It's such an amazing place, and I got to hear stories, support and raise money to help have more healthy babies born in this world!

The ambassador baby, ETHAN :)

Where the money at?

We live in such a materialistic world. Who has the best car, who has the best outfit and newest iPhone. I can't lie, I fall into the trap sometimes...everyone does. Is it really worth it to me though, no. One thing that I have realized with doing this pageantry thing, is it's a great opportunity and I get to do so many amazing things and meet great people and  try to make a difference, but it's very very financially difficult . This world revolves around the mula $$$. I would much rather spend my time on a mission trip, than go shopping.

I recently read the story about

The Rich Man and Lazarus, its Luke 16:19

I think a big question that Christians ask now a days is, How can a loving God send people to hell?

Well I will tell you right now that our God does not send people to hell, they choose it. God desires for everyone to pick heaven though.

"To a Christian this world is the only hell we will ever see, and to a non Christian this world is the only heaven they will see."

19"There was a rich man who was dressed in purple and fine linen and lived in luxury every day. 20At his gate was laid a beggar named Lazarus, covered with sores 21 and longing to eat what fell from the rich man's table. Even the dogs came and licked his sores. 22"The time came when the beggar died and the angles carried him to Abraham's side. The rich man also died and was buried. 23In hell, where was in torment, he looked up and saw Abraham far away, with Lazarus by his side. 24 So he called to him, 'Father Abraham, have pity on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this fire.'

Jesus replied to the Rich Man

25"But Abraham replied, 'Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, while Lazarus received bad things, but now he is comforted here and you are in agony.

Then the Rich Man begs and begs Abraham to go warn his family so they would not come to this place of agony as well. He said to them

31"He said to him, 'If they do not listen to Moses and the Prophets, they will not be convinced even if someone rises from the dead"

What he means is that even though Jesus rose from the dead and everyone saw this, they still want that proof. Wait, I thought that was proof????....Then once they do die, and they are standing before an amazing judge people say "oh wow, it is all true... Jesus give me another change, I believe you now". Don't we wish it was that easy...God is a good judge, say if you were in a jury and a someone was being convicted of a murder and he says to the judge "listen judge, I know I did this wrong, but I've done this good. I shouldn't be convicted" and the judge replies and lets him go. Would you say he is a good judge, uh NO! That's how God is, in the bible is says that God is a good judge...

Remember.... we have

A very loving God, but also Justice

He has grace, but also wrath

He has mercy, but also good judgment

So my whole point with this story, is being the rich man and getting everything you want and being an ungodly person worth your eternity in Hell. I've chosen my life to be different, and I want to live for God and choose what's best for me, and be the best person that I am capable of. So with that I have three things for you to do, if you want...

1.) be sure you are saved

2.) be burdened of other people

-tell people about God, you don't worry about not seeing your family or friends in heaven with you

3.) are you fully engaged?

-are your priorities straight?

-do you best and play your position

-you're in the game, but are you engaged?

GO TOURISTS! :)

I was very honored when I was contacted by the Tourists to make an appearance. I live only 30 minutes from the stadium and have grown up going to games! It was also CINCO DE MAYO! So the first 1,000 people got free t-shirts, chap-stick and a program. I helped hand out programs and greet people coming in, then I was taken out onto the field to throw the first pitch alongside a police officer and young boy who plays baseball (he was the cutest thing)! I had such a great time, and all the players were so nice... they also all said they were very impressed with the arm I had (I made it to home plate!)

What a tropper, my dad held my heels for me.. wasn't about to take the chance of throwing a baseball in heels :)

 Mom and Mr. Moon and all my best girl friends came to support me and cheer me on! I definitely can say I am so blessed to have such a great support system,

 and friends & family

who are always

 here for me

and love me!

Sundays Best!

Just bought some new items this weekend and had to share because I'm so in love with this dress. One shoulder is definitely in, and pockets just make it 10x better! The dress is from Marshalls, heels: Rack Room Shoes!