Monday, August 13, 2012

hatas gonna hate

Well recently a crazy situation happened to me on Facebook. The ohhhh so dreaded Facebook, I definitely would not have one if it wasn't for the fact that I have to keep up with my Miss Teen North Carolina International 2012 page. Facebook is trash, sorry to say it to all you "obsessed, look every second, hope I have a notification" Facebook people out there.....I'm just not a fan, sorry.

So I'll kind of explain the story, it's no biggie. A guy messaged me asking, ya know, the ole "how you doing, I haven't talked to you in forever"
Then, I'm on the other side of the computer saying to myself... "ummmm who is this" (happens to me all the time, I'm AWFUL with names and faces and remembering frankly anything..)
Well and then my boyfriend gets on and types back "Because I have a bf, bye"
So, this guy didn't take it very well, actually he got pretty mad. Not sure why? Whatever I don't really care because first it wasn't me and secondly.. I didn't even know him.
Well long story short he ended up messaging me twice. The second message was quite longer than the first and I actually didn't even get to the second message with reading because it was a bunch of bologna and just plum rude when I didn't even know the guy. Needless to say, he actually said a lot of hurtful things just in the one message that I read, that's when I did my "you don't sink my boat" deal (cough cough, read the blog below) and just deleted them before I read any further and he is definitely not my "face book friend" anymore either. BLOCKED!

.... here's another story

At KFC one day I was waiting in line, and a lady was ordering her meal. She was about my height and just slightly larger than me. She said to the cashier I would like a bucket of chicken and one side, (I don't frankly remember the side, its okay though). The cashier then said, "is that for here or to go ma'am?" and she said, "for here"...
The KFC worker then gave her a very rude and questionable look and then said, "are you serious, you're going to eat all of that here?"
(This is my favorite part)
The lady put her hands on her hips, and shook her head while she said
Wow, I was so ecstatic. I gave that woman a high five and told her "good for you" and she got her food and sat down to enjoy it.
I couldn't believe how rude the KFC worker was to her, and it's true he didn't know her life or had any right to judge her for just eating some good ole KFC.

Both of these things happened within the past week and it really got me to thinking how absolutely plum rude and judgmental people are on this earth. It amazes me. I've grown to realize that it is SO much better to have just a few real friends, than having a ton of fake ones. After that guy messaged me I was actually upset, I'm not sure why because I shouldn't have at all. I realized though no matter what, for everyone "be careful with your words. Once they are said, they can only be forgiven, not forgotten". I guess that is kind of what happened with me, I kept thinking to myself "what right does he have to judge me and say rude things to me when frankly I don't even remember the guy". It took my wonderful boyfriend and some words of encouragement and laughter to help me get over it.

So I came up with a conclusion to both these situations and just said to myself "hatas gonna hate" It is very true too. People only say or do mean things to someone because they are jealous.. It eats at people to see someone more successful than them. They will do anything to put people down, just to do it. Stupid, right? I did some research and looked up some verses for when you or someone you know may receive some "hate".. here's what I came up with

No matter what hardships the world may throw at you, you have in Jesus everything you need to preserve. Despair is a deep pit and sometimes you totter around its edges, almost falling in. I've definitely been to those edges. To keep from falling though I've realized you have to change your focus from your circumstances to Jesus. As a human we have a natural tendency to keep thinking about a difficult situation- trying to figure it out kinda. Though you may be hard pressed on every side, you shouldn't ever be crushed by your difficulties facing you and fall inn. Because guess what? we are not alone in our battles. Jesus will never ever abandon us. "I am the shepherd and guardian of your soul- the part that is indestructible". Also although he may bring grief, he will show compassion. No matter what trials you are enduring, you can count on his love and his compassion- neither of which will NEVER fail..
We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair' persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed 2 Corinthians 4:8
A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones Proverbs 17:22 AMP (aka, KFC guy and message guy.. their bones are dry ha ha)
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great in his unfailing love Lamentations 3:32
Our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far out weights them all 2 Corinthians 4:17
Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge. Selah. Psalm 62:8

I pray and hope that for whoever is reading this you never let someone downgrade or lower you. Always surround yourself with people who will uplift you and make you happy. Never let someone be rude or judgmental to you, no one has a right to do that buttttt neither do you. You're not in someone else's shoes and their not in yours and it will always be like that, no matter what. I have a challenge for whoever is reading this, next time you come up to a situation or someone hatin' on you just simply say

and ignore it

1 comment:

  1. You go, Shelby!! This is great and soooo true! So happy you have figured this all out at such a young age!
    Love you, sweetie!!